The Good News
Online elite dating has become the new normal in the dating scene. My guess is you’ve even tried your hand at online dating before. If you haven’t, you’re one of the few single people not to.
In the United States, over 40 million people have tried online dating. That number continues to rise each year.
And there is no stop in sight. Experts have predicted online dating users to increase more and more over the coming years. If you’re not online dating while single, you’re not trying.
The advent of the Internet has seen numerous changes in the world and the dating scene is no different. While online dating was once seen as an outlet for the social inept to find love, this stigma is all gone.
Your friends are dating online. Your co-workers are dating online. The Elite are dating online. Everyone is dating online! While a bit of an exaggeration, it isn’t far from the truth.
Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the past few years, you’ve met someone who has dated online. You probably even know someone who found love online.
Chances are good that this person you know, who found love online, is a pretty normal person. They probably have a decent job and present themselves well. However, they had just one issue…
They were looking for love in all the wrong places. Once they went online, this individual was able to find a number of potential suitors, who were suited to be a perfect match for him or her.
And here’s the good news – you can find love online too.
There’s no reason not too. Online dating is normal nowadays. No one, says you great grandma, is going to judge you for dating online. Not only will you not be judged, I’d bet my money that’ll you find someone you truly click with. Well, as long as you truly put the effort in to find someone great.
How Online Elite Dating Works
Now, not only will you find someone great using online dating, but also the whole ordeal is pretty easy. No more late nights in the club hoping to meet your perfect match. No more lonely nights wishing you had a significant other.
You sign up for a site or two of your choosing. You then begin to put photos of yourself on the site. Next, you write about yourself. A short self-summary is all that’s needed. You won’t be writing any five-page essays on your profile.
After you get everything set-up, you start interacting with other singles in your area. You can message them. They can message you. You may flirt a little here and there. A date is then purposed and you’re off to the races. Finding love has never been easier.
Stop wasting your time. Stop sitting around and hoping that perfect guy or gal will just “magically” appear in your life. Take things into your own hands. Be proactive.
If you’re single, give online dating a try today!
Where to Find a Great Date
You’ve taken the first step toward meeting that special someone. However, you may now find yourself a bit confused. The online dating market is huge and there are so many sites to choose from.
You are probably perplexed as to how to choose the right one. Well, I’m going to make that easy for you. Instead of doing endless hours of research trying to find the best site(s) in your area, I’m going to lay them out for you.
No more guess work. No more homework. Below are the top ten online dating sites available to single who are attracted to other normal and good looking single people.
The sites are in no particular order. However, I do specify which age groups should use each site. Some sites are awesome for younger people. Other sites are much better for a more mature crowd.
Here are the best online dating sites available to the modern dater:
If you haven’t seen a Match commercial, you’ve probably been living under a rock, again. Match is one of the biggest and baddest online dating sites around. It’s also one of the best.
Match is great for people between the ages of 24-70, who are serious about finding something real. While users on match do engage in casual dating, you’ll find the user base to be more relationship minded than other sites.
Match is the best site to start with if you truly are looking for love, but not willing to rush things. Match is not a free site.
I have a love-hate relationship with eHarmony. On one hand the user interface is sloppy. The messaging interface doesn’t allow much proactive messaging, either. However, the site simply gets the job done.
Even with the shortcoming, eHarmony has a knack for finding people who are a perfect match. Many a couple has met on eHarmony. Heck, many spouses ended up meeting on eHarmony.
eHarmony is great for any age; the only requirement with the site is that user should be more marriage-minded than other sites. Lastly, eHarmony is not free.
Plenty of Fish
Another site I have a love-hate relationship with is Plenty of Fish. Plenty of Fish can be an awesome site, but using the site can also be a complete waste of time. This is because Plenty of Fish is awesome in some cities, while horrific in others.
Plenty of Fish is bested used by a younger crowd. Anyone over 35 should steer clear of the site in most locales. Also, you should only use Plenty of Fish if you’re looking for a casual type of relationship. While many have found love on the site, most users are looking to have a good time and see if something serious develops.
Plenty of Fish is free.
As of writing this, Tinder is the most popular dating site available to single. And it’s not even a site; it’s an app.
Tinder logs into your Facebook and allows you to select photos of yourself. You then throw up a short bio and begin liking or swiping any person you fancy. The app is incredibly popular with younger singles.
No one over the age should be using Tinder. It will often be a waste of time. Tinder is also free. You just need a smart phone.
Badoo is as much of a social network as it is a dating site. Users can choose if they want to meet someone for dating or for friendship. However, most people use Badoo for dating.
The site is usually only good in certain locations. While not that popular in most cities in the United States, Badoo is a great site to use in Eastern Europe and Latin America.
Badoo is great for ages 18-40. The site is free, but you’d do yourself a favor by buying some “superpowers” from the site.
Zoosk is another great online dating site for individuals who want to take their dating life seriously. The site is not free, but it can be worthwhile in certain locations.
Zoosk is useful for many singles, but it’s best to do some research on how populated Zoosk is in your area. Some places will have numerous users, while others will have none. Instead of forking over your money right off the bat – find out if anyone in your area uses the site.
Zoosk is a good site for ages 22-45.
JDate is not for everyone because JDate is only for people of Jewish ancestry. If you are not Jewish, the site will be a complete waste of time. However, if you are Jewish then JDate could be the best site for you.
Many a Jewish couple has found their love on JDate The site has been around for a while and is incredibly popular in the Jewish community.
Unless you’re a Jewish person looking for a serious relationship, I would stay away. If this description fits you and you’re 22-70, sign on up! JDate is not free.
Similar to JDate, Christian Mingle is only a site for Christians whom are looking for a serious relationship. You don’t join Christian Mingle to casually date around before finding a serious relationship.
You join Christian Mingle because you are looking to find someone to marry, who is also a Christian.
If this sounds like you, then Christian Mingle is a great site. If not, I’d stay away. Christian Mingle is not free.
Chemistry.com is an online dating site that’s a bit different from the rest. Owned by the same company as Match, Chemistry is an online dating site with a matchmaker twist.
Chemistry is not a normal online dating site and I wouldn’t advise it to many singles out there. However, if you have a bit of a quirky personality, you may find Chemistry to be a great online dating site.
The site is good for all ages, but it is not free.
How to Select your Photos
Overall, picking the right site or sites for your online dating endeavors is probably the most important factor in finding that special someone.
However, if you choose a good site, but then slack off on setting things up properly – you will never find a date. It doesn’t matter how great a certain online dating site(s) is in your location, if you don’t have a great profile set up.
And the most important part of your profile is…
Your photos! Seriously, you could craft an incredibly compelling self-summary, but if your photos are not attractive then you’ll never get a date. If you are using only dating to find that special someone, you have to select great photos of yourself.
Now for some, finding the best photo of themselves is easy. We can these people “photogenic” if we’re being nice. However, not everyone is blessed with the ability to take an attractive photo at all times.
However, with a little practice, we can all gather enough good photos of ourselves to land a date or ten. This means we can all create a great profile and thus, find that special someone utilizing online dating.
The advice below applies to both sexes. If you’re looking to find that special someone, a quality guy or gal, here’s how to select your perfect photos for online dating.
No one wants to see a selfie. Selfies scream, “I’m a narcissistic individual with not much to do, so I take photos of myself”, which is rarely attractive to either sex. Stop taking photos of yourself lying in bed or on the sofa. You look like a loser. A selfie from a Go Pro camera in a cool locale is a bit of a different story.
Along the lines of selfies, a mirror flexing photos is awful for either sex. While this use to be a strictly male violation, many young women are beginning to do the same. If you post one of these photos online, don’t be surprised when you only find “casual” companions.
No one wants to guess which person you are in a group photo. Plus, if your friend(s) are more attractive than you are, you’re going to upset people when they find out. Just avoid the whole debacle by not using group photos on your online dating profile. Someone will want to go out with. No one wants to go out with a group.
With An Ex
The epitome of bad karma, you should never post photos of yourself with an ex-lover on your online dating profile. No matter how hot he or she is, most people looking at your profile will assume you still have feelings for him or her. This is a huge turn off.
The most attractive part of the body for both sexes is the face. You’ll want to use this to your advantage by including a face shot of yourself on your profile. Just remember to avoid a selfie! A smile is also pretty good too.
The next best thing to show potential dates is that you’re an interesting person. While a pretty face is nice, so is good conversation. One of the easiest ways to show you’re an interesting person is by uploading photos of you traveling. The key is to make sure you’re in the photo in some way. As well, travel photos are a great way to show off your body, if you’re in shape.
Another great way to show off your physique is through athletic photos, and I’m not talking flexing mirror selfies. No, you’ll want to include a photo of you surfing or mountain biking or playing a sport. You’ll get bonus points if you combine travel photo and an athletic photo into one.
Dressed Up Photos
Members of both sexes love to see members of the opposite sex dressed to the nines. For men, you’ll do well putting a picture of you in a suit on your profile. For women, that skinny black dress photo never hurts your chances.
Lastly, everyone likes puppy pictures. If you have a good photo with you dog, you should use it on your online dating profile. A photo of a happy dog with his or her loving owner smiling in the background is perfect.
How Many Photos?
The number of photos you upload on your online dating profile can also determine how many dates you get. Most people would serve themselves best by uploading between 2-5 photos on their profile.
If you upload more than 5, you’ll often do yourself more harm than good. Others may think you’re narcissistic or you’ll turn people off because of a minute detail in a photo.
Men should ideally upload 2-4 photos, while woman would be best served uploading 3-5.
Professional Photo Tips
Lastly, if you really want to get incredible photos for your online dating profile then you need to get professional photos taken. No, your senior pictures from high school don’t look like you do anymore.
You don’t want any old professional photographer. Sure, your photos may turn out ok, but we want great. You don’t even want a portrait photographer. No, if you’re looking to get the best possible photos for your online dating profile – you want to hire a fashion or editorial photographer.
Fashion or editorial photographers are the people who take photos of models, both men and women. They know how to make you look your best, while making sure you look stylish.
Perfect your Profile Writing
Now you may have reach this point in this article and you’ve begun to think, “So all I need is a good site and good photos?” However, this is not true. Good photos and a good site will get you a date or two alone, but rarely will it be with that special someone.
No, if you truly desire to find that special someone through online dating, you’ll need to write an intriguing profile about yourself as well.
Now each and every online dating site is different, but most of them include a “self-summary” or “about me” section. This is what you will want to fill out with a bit of depth.
What Makes A Great “Self-Summary”
While men and women can be a bit different with regards to profile writing, both sexes can use a few common themes to create a great profile text.
No one wants to date a liar. You will get caught in your lie, so just don’t do it. There is some one for everyone online. You don’t need to make things up about yourself on your profile. Just be yourself and be honest.
Also, make sure you’re honest about what you’re looking for in a partner and/or relationship. You don’t want to say you’re looking to have fun when you really want a spouse.
Make no mistake about it – people will read your profile, especially if they like your photos. However, these people also read a number of profiles. So you will need to stand out.
The easiest way to stand out is by throwing a little humor in your profile. A little humor goes a long way when dating online. If everything you say is a joke, you’ll come off as try hard. Also, sarcastic humor is often tough to follow through text.
Don’t be afraid to show a bit of your kinks and quirks. Your weird side may appeal to someone who is just perfect for you. Everyone like movies, going out for a drink Friday night and all that typical jazz. Show something else about your personality than these typical attributes.
As well, no one wants to date someone who is boring. Almost everyone wants to date someone who is fun loving and adventurous. So show this in your profile! Talk about your travels. Talk about your dreams. Have fun with it.
Tell a Story
Lastly, tell a story with your profile, Don’t say you visited a country. Talk about the experience. Describe the times you had in vivid detail.
By using your self-summary as a way to tell a story about yourself, you will be pleasantly surprised with how many people want to date you.
How To Write
Now many of you may be thinking, “Yeah, but I hate talking about myself” and then remembering – writing about yourself isn’t going to be much easier. However, I have a quick trick that can help you.
If you’re struggling to write your online dating profile, you need to do this one thing. Set your alarm clock for 15 minutes earlier than normal. When you wake up, immediately walk to your computer and open a word document. Begin writing about yourself.
Type some jokes and stories. Have fun with it. You’ll be half-awake, so you shouldn’t be in a serious mood. Do this for two weeks. Don’t erase anything.
Then after two weeks, grab a beer or glass of wine one evening and sit down with your computer. Begin editing the document. Copy the stuff you like onto a new document, but still don’t erase anything from the old one. Then began arranging the things you copied around until you have a summary you like.
Open up your online dating profile and paste the good stuff into your profile.
The Dangers of Online Dating
Now online dating can be a fun and exciting way to meet that special someone, but it’s not all fun and games. Online dating can be dangerous.
Think about it…
You’re heading off to meet someone you’ve never met before. Sure, he or she seemed awesome online and while texting, but you never know.
While you could be heading to a date with your new soul mate, you could also be meeting a serial killer.
The dangers of online dating are limitless. You could be a target of a scam. You could be kidnapped. In theory, the practice of online dating is not safe. However, many people are doing online dating these days, so it can’t be that bad.
Well, the good news is that it’s not, if you know what you’re doing. You need to protect yourself when dating online, first and foremost.
Now in order to avoid any of the dangers of online dating, you’ll want to do a few things. First, you always want to meet your online date in a public place that is well lit.
Next, you’ll want to screen your date with some questions and concerns.
Now you don’t have to ask your date too many questions as you interact before meeting. A lot of red flags will appear as you communicate digitally.
For example, if someone only has limited availability then they are probably not a good date. He or she could be married, or they could just be a sketchy person.
As well, you’ll always want to get the full name and phone number of someone you may meet up with. If you don’t have a name and a number, no one will be able to track you down if things do go badly.
Now this step is tricky because people often protect their personal information online. A name and phone number is fair game. However, don’t give or ask for anything more. No one needs someone’s address that they haven’t met.
Also, you can do a small Google search on someone with his or her full name and phone number. This allows you to do a bit of research before you go out on a date.
If a man or woman talks about money before meeting you, he or she is running some type of scam. Stop talking to this person and report them to the site you’re using.
If a man or a woman wants to rush things, he or she could have ulterior motives. It’s rare for a rushed romance to happen between two people meant for each other. Take things slow to protect yourself and your interests.
The easiest way to protect yourself online is by using reputable sites like the ones we have listed in this book. If you use sketchy sites, don’t be surprised by the sketchy people.
You can also just ask your date if you have anything to be worried about. If the person is normal and has good intentions, this question will never be a problem.
The Final Step
Even with all precautions you could take, you really never know who you may be dealing with dating the elite online.
The only way to truly know is by running a background check on someone. If you try to do this yourself, it can be tedious. You’ll spend all day searching around the web and clicking through hundreds of different websites.
And if you pay an investigator or legal firm, they are going to cost a lot of money. Money that you don’t need to spend. You only need a quick background check. You don’t need to know every last detail about someone. Sure, he or she may have bad taste in breakfast cereal, but that’s not a deal breaker.
No, you need a background check that was created with online dating in mind. No wasted information, just a quick check to make sure you’re about to date someone who is not a criminal or a creep.
You need to look into a site like:
For under $2, Online Dating Investigator will check the National Criminal Database, National Sex Offender Database and check to see if the subject is married or divorced.
For less than the price of a fast food meal, you’ll have all the information you need to stay safe. Plus, you’ll save yourself time. If you find out that you’re communicating with a married man or woman, you can cut chords before meeting them.
Now, if things begin to get serious with someone you met online, you’ll want to dive a little deeper. Online Dating Investigator can also help you here. They have an in-depth search package that checks:
Uniform Commercial Code Filings (UCC)
Nationwide Criminal Database
National Registered Sex Offender Search
Imposters (Others using the same SSN)
Health Care Sanctions
Controlled Substance License
Concealed Weapons Permit